….will break my bones; but, words will never hurt me. Remember that one?
According to my Google search, it first appeared in a publication called The Christian Recorder in 1862.
Basically, it means that you cannot be hurt by words. Only physical things, like sticks…and stones, can really truly hurt you. I expect that many Gen Xers and beyond, possibly even a few Millenials, remember the phrase, and hopefully its meaning.
I view its meaning as a tenet of maturity and wisdom – a principle. Principles are to be upheld at all costs. I raised my children to know this principle – understand it, and apply it. The expectation was, and is, don’t say things that will hurt others, and don’t get all bent out of shape when someone says something to try to hurt you. In order to achieve this, a person obviously has to have a very well established ego and self-esteem; basically, they need to know who they are and be proud of themselves.
Not an easy undertaking in our current society.
By the looks of it, however, it appears that many who are driven to frustration and anger over the state of our society and the status of the political spectrum have forgotten this phrase.
Many are trying to hurt with their words.
Many are being hurt by those very same words.
There is a vicious cycle brewing and bubbling.
Many of those words are opinion, not fact – yet, those words are being propagated as fact.
And those words sting.
The words being thrown around are nothing less than horrifying and degrading. In that sense, they could be allocated the weight of a stick or a stone, in certain individuals.
Sticks and stones being heaved over social media, just because they can.
If you view the words – thrown around like stones and rocks – as fact, this is what MSM, and even some of your Facebook friends, would have you believe:
- that you are worthless because of your beliefs
- that your beliefs are worthless because they are contrary to “xxxx”
- that your beliefs are worthless because they are contrary to someone else’s
- that you are not an individual if you support certain ideas
- that because you are not an individual, you are stereotyped into a certain group
- that the group you are stereotyped into is not worthy of anything except contempt
- that your opinion is irrelevant
- that you are wrong
What it boils down is these facts:
- Judging your neighbor or your friend in the previously listed areas is now acceptable
- The use of angry language and nasty epithets (basically depersonalizing another human being) against someone because they don’t agree with you is now the way to win the argument
- Acknowledging that another human being has a different point of view, and that point of view is valid even though you don’t agree with it, is now out of fashion
Here is my opinion, based on the facts:
- Each person is responsible for his actions and his words.
- A person cannot be held responsible for the actions or words of someone else.
- Our society is overrun by people who have an inability to think, speak, and act independently.
- When people are not able to think, speak, and act independently, they are then more likely to not take responsibility for themselves. They will blame and instigate.
- Groups of people who are followers, with no independent thought or personal responsibility, are dangerous.
What appears to be happening in our society now is disheartening and pathetic. I truly hope is only a blip and that it will subside and leave us a better people as a whole.
In the meantime, we, as individuals, have a lot of work to do. For as we take the actions that will uphold our fellow human beings, friend or not, we will propagate the ideals to make our society a better place after the turmoil in over.
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