Sticks and Stones

….will break my bones; but, words will never hurt me.  Remember that one?

I do.

According to my Google search, it first appeared in a publication called The Christian Recorder in 1862.

Basically, it means that you cannot be hurt by words. Only physical things, like sticks…and stones, can really truly hurt you. I expect that many Gen Xers and beyond, possibly even a few Millenials, remember the phrase, and hopefully its meaning.

I view its meaning as a tenet of maturity and wisdom – a principle. Principles are to be upheld at all costs. I raised my children to know this principle – understand it, and apply it. The expectation was, and is, don’t say things that will hurt others, and don’t get all bent out of shape when someone says something to try to hurt you. In order to achieve this, a person obviously has to have a very well established ego and self-esteem; basically, they need to know who they are and be proud of themselves.

Not an easy undertaking in our current society.

By the looks of it, however, it appears that many who are driven to frustration and anger over the state of our society and the status of the political spectrum have forgotten this phrase.

Many are trying to hurt with their words.

Many are being hurt by those very same words.

There is a vicious cycle brewing and bubbling.

Many of those words are opinion, not fact – yet, those words are being propagated as fact.

And those words sting.

The words being thrown around are nothing less than horrifying and degrading. In that sense, they could be allocated the weight of a stick or a stone, in certain individuals.

Sticks and stones being heaved over social media, just because they can.

If you view the words – thrown around like stones and rocks – as fact, this is what MSM, and even some of your Facebook friends, would have you believe:

  • that you are worthless because of your beliefs
  • that your beliefs are worthless because they are contrary to “xxxx”
  • that your beliefs are worthless because they are contrary to someone else’s
  • that you are not an individual if you support certain ideas
  • that because you are not an individual, you are stereotyped into a certain group
  • that the group you are stereotyped into is not worthy of anything except contempt
  • that your opinion is irrelevant
  • that you are wrong

What it boils down is these facts:

  • Judging your neighbor or your friend in the previously listed areas is now acceptable
  • The use of angry language and nasty epithets (basically depersonalizing another human being) against someone because they don’t agree with you is now the way to win the argument
  • Acknowledging that another human being has a different point of view, and that point of view is valid even though you don’t agree with it, is now out of fashion

Here is my opinion, based on the facts:

  • Each person is responsible for his actions and his words.
  • A person cannot be held responsible for the actions or words of someone else.
  • Our society is overrun by people who have an inability to think, speak, and act independently.
  • When people are not able to think, speak, and act independently, they are then more likely to not take responsibility for themselves. They will blame and instigate.
  • Groups of people who are followers, with no independent thought or personal responsibility, are dangerous.

What appears to be happening in our society now is disheartening and pathetic. I truly hope is only a blip and that it will subside and leave us a better people as a whole.

In the meantime, we, as individuals, have a lot of work to do. For as we take the actions that will uphold our fellow human beings, friend or not, we will propagate the ideals to make our society a better place after the turmoil in over.

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Introducing “Focus and Educate Yourself”

Over the past few months,  I have gotten myself, with the help of my Facebook “friends”, into several heated debates over politically charged issues: education, use of GMOs, President-elect Trump’s political appointments and future policies.

I have been labeled ignorant and close-minded. Me? Wow!!

My goal was never to inflame nor to judge, but only to show a different side to very narrow and politically biased arguments. Unfortunately, I did not have research and facts to back me up. And I was called out for it. This doesn’t mean that the other side had a handle on those facts either; only that they were able to throw around some weighty catch phrases.

During this all, I have learned that:

  • Everyone has a political bias
  • Political bias is a blinder and it has the power to debilitate most healthy debates
  • The use of rhetoric and conjecture is rampant when political bias is present
  • Rhetoric and conjecture have become mainstay replacements for actual research and educated thought processes
  • Everyone is subject to the use of rhetoric and conjecture because it is the easy way out
  • The ability to remain objective in a politically biased world is virtually impossible

I’m tired of being cornered by people who think they have all the answers and are arrogant enough to voice it that way.

I’m sick of people who label and stereotype others a certain way just because of different viewpoints.

I hate the hypocrisy that is occurring.

I’m done with feeling like I am clawing my way through a maze of biased or under-informed opinion, just because it was the most recent post that came over someone’s Facebook and inflamed an emotional response couched in purported “facts”.

I want to be in a position where I can share something during one of these debates that makes another person say, “Wow, I didn’t know that”. Yep, I know that not everyone is like me and may not likely actually say that out loud, no more than they would apologize when they know they are wrong. I also know that when an issue is ensconced in emotion, mutual understanding and agreement can never be reached.

I am introducing a series of posts entitled “Focus and Educate Yourself”. The purpose of these posts will be to share what I learned through my own research on different topics that are prominent in today’s world and significant in our current political environment. The goal is to hopefully get people thinking on their own, instead of spewing the most recent babble.

I am welcome to suggestions on topics.

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A Prayer

A good friend of mine texted this to me yesterday. I believe it is a Twitter post from @pastornaeem.

I am making it my blog post for today because it is very relevant to yesterday’s post.

I hope that in reading and reflecting on it, no matter what your faith or religious beliefs are, that it will provide hope and courage to anyone who has recently been (or is about to be) dumped.

~ Heavenly Father ~

It’s time for me to forget the past, forget the mistakes, and focus on what you are doing in my life today. I know you are doing a new thing. You are placing the right people in my life and removing the wrong ones. You are closing old doors and preparing me for new opportunities. The pruning process can be uncomfortable and painful, but I know it’s for my good. I trust you.Trust

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