Thoughts for the Days

~ “At the precipice, we all change.”  ~ paraphrase from The Day The Earth Stood Still

~ Who needs free speech anyhow?

~ Re-read Ayn Rand, Leo Tolstoy, George Orwell. That appears to be where America is heading.

~”If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” ~ Romans 12:18

~ Hatred is a choice, no matter what direction it is pointed and regardless of the cause. Groups don’t make choices; individuals make choices. Check yourself!

~ Just because you can, does it mean you should…and why would you want to do that anyhow?

~ “Just because there are things you haven’t heard about doesn’t mean that they don’t exist.” ~ Unknown

~ “Find a penny; pick it up.”

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Why I Write

To be honest, I write mainly for me. It’s a selfish interest – or at least it begins that way.

Writing helps me analyze everything: me, things, people, spaces, events, thoughts, perceptions. I guess it is one way that I have found to maintain my sanity when nothing seems to make sense.

Sometimes the writing comes at the beginning of the analysis. Most times, it comes toward the end as I strive to put the pieces together – pieces that I have been spinning and re-positioning in my head for God knows how long – and prepare to move on.

And everything gets analyzed in my world. If it is personally compelling enough for any reason, it gets written, and usually published to this blog.

Once a piece is written, and published, it becomes public domain and holds the power to influence a reader in whatever way the reader needs to perceive it.

Its message is perceived and used in ways only the reader can fathom. To a reader, my reason for writing becomes personal to him or her. It is no longer about me.

To a reader, I write for different reasons. And, in reality, these other reasons are a secondary benefit to me as well. If my writing has the power to achieve these goals for other people, in their time of need, then it was time and effort well spent.

To a reader, I might write……

To educate

To enlighten

To inspire

To reveal hope

To commiserate

To vent

To entertain

To change perspective

To deliver a message 

I met up with a few friends for drinks, and during the course of conversation I revealed that I am not a caregiver personality. I mean anyone that knows me knows that I have a good heart (at least, I hope they do); but I don’t ordinarily go out of my way to help others unless I am asked or unless I am keenly aware that they need and will accept my help.

That said, I hope that my writing “helps” others to work through their own issues in their own time, in their own way.

In a prismatic manner, maybe I am a caregiver after all.

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Sticks and Stones

….will break my bones; but, words will never hurt me.  Remember that one?

I do.

According to my Google search, it first appeared in a publication called The Christian Recorder in 1862.

Basically, it means that you cannot be hurt by words. Only physical things, like sticks…and stones, can really truly hurt you. I expect that many Gen Xers and beyond, possibly even a few Millenials, remember the phrase, and hopefully its meaning.

I view its meaning as a tenet of maturity and wisdom – a principle. Principles are to be upheld at all costs. I raised my children to know this principle – understand it, and apply it. The expectation was, and is, don’t say things that will hurt others, and don’t get all bent out of shape when someone says something to try to hurt you. In order to achieve this, a person obviously has to have a very well established ego and self-esteem; basically, they need to know who they are and be proud of themselves.

Not an easy undertaking in our current society.

By the looks of it, however, it appears that many who are driven to frustration and anger over the state of our society and the status of the political spectrum have forgotten this phrase.

Many are trying to hurt with their words.

Many are being hurt by those very same words.

There is a vicious cycle brewing and bubbling.

Many of those words are opinion, not fact – yet, those words are being propagated as fact.

And those words sting.

The words being thrown around are nothing less than horrifying and degrading. In that sense, they could be allocated the weight of a stick or a stone, in certain individuals.

Sticks and stones being heaved over social media, just because they can.

If you view the words – thrown around like stones and rocks – as fact, this is what MSM, and even some of your Facebook friends, would have you believe:

  • that you are worthless because of your beliefs
  • that your beliefs are worthless because they are contrary to “xxxx”
  • that your beliefs are worthless because they are contrary to someone else’s
  • that you are not an individual if you support certain ideas
  • that because you are not an individual, you are stereotyped into a certain group
  • that the group you are stereotyped into is not worthy of anything except contempt
  • that your opinion is irrelevant
  • that you are wrong

What it boils down is these facts:

  • Judging your neighbor or your friend in the previously listed areas is now acceptable
  • The use of angry language and nasty epithets (basically depersonalizing another human being) against someone because they don’t agree with you is now the way to win the argument
  • Acknowledging that another human being has a different point of view, and that point of view is valid even though you don’t agree with it, is now out of fashion

Here is my opinion, based on the facts:

  • Each person is responsible for his actions and his words.
  • A person cannot be held responsible for the actions or words of someone else.
  • Our society is overrun by people who have an inability to think, speak, and act independently.
  • When people are not able to think, speak, and act independently, they are then more likely to not take responsibility for themselves. They will blame and instigate.
  • Groups of people who are followers, with no independent thought or personal responsibility, are dangerous.

What appears to be happening in our society now is disheartening and pathetic. I truly hope is only a blip and that it will subside and leave us a better people as a whole.

In the meantime, we, as individuals, have a lot of work to do. For as we take the actions that will uphold our fellow human beings, friend or not, we will propagate the ideals to make our society a better place after the turmoil in over.

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Thoughts for the Days

~ If you can’t own it, don’t do it.

~ Gotta love the strength of a long-awaited and well-earned revelation. It has the power to flush away – in an instant – months of emotional turmoil and to restore stability and self-confidence.

~ “Nothing is unknown. It is only temporarily hidden.” ~ Star Trek Beyond

~ “In the end what you don’t surrender the world just strips away.” ~ Human Touch by Bruce Springsteen

~ “Life, for all its anguish, is ours. It belongs to no other.” ~ quoted from Penny Dreadful, Season 3, Episode 1

~ There is meaning in many of life’s events – tragedies, triumphs, disappointments, successes. All you need is the courage to look into the shadows to see what was hidden before and to be unafraid to connect the pieces.

~ What will you – the biased political pundits of FB (you are part of this group if you have made more than 1 politically tainted post a week during this campaign) do after this election? Who will you roast? What will you have accomplished, really? What has really changed by all of your inflammatory posts but to drive a wedge between every one and every group? Just like the candidates and the media have guided you to do, driven you to express…you are not unifiers. You have become just as devisive as them all. Pity! Can’t wait for the end of the drama…

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Dear Mr. President

Preamble:

Let’s get some facts established first:

  • I did not vote for Trump, nor for Clinton.
  • I am not a millenial.
  • I am gainfully employed but have seen troubles over my life that have placed me, at times, in less than desirable circumstances from which I had to crawl my way out, dragging a family behind me.
  • I am a conservative, not a Fascist.
  • As a conservative, yes, I do believe in basic human rights and justices.
  • I believe in hard work ~ for everyone.
  • I do not believe in the political machine, including the main and mid stream media that snivels around it and has all of us by the balls and is slowly squeezing.
  • I believe in peaceful demonstration, as one of our Constitutional rights, but I do not by any means advocate violence of any kind.
  • I know that many of you will read this and be insulted, even now, over a week after the election.
  • I do not apologize for my opinion, nor my position.

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With that aside, let me continue.

After many days of contemplation, peppered with vicious exchanges with people whom I have called friends for several years, I have decided to express a few thoughts and feelings that I have been harboring.

As much as many of us have tried to keep things civilized in the wake of your election victory last week, it has proven almost impossible.download

Actually, if I had to classify it, I would say it is social warfare out there. No longer warfare between the proverbial haves and have nots. Nor between the sexes. And it really is not even a war between the races.

It is a war of principles. It is a war of perceived standards. It is a war between intangible thought processes and subjective belief systems; belief systems that have been grown, pruned, and stunted by untold years of personal experience and the molding of each individual. It has resulted in histrionics of epic proportions, across multiple societal lines.

The war zone is real out here, President-elect Trump, and it is slowly gathering momentum – taking prisoners and accumulating casualties.

It is a war steeped in fear, resentment, spite.

It has made some good people make bad behavior choices. good_versus_bad

Here are some of the behaviors I have personally experienced. Sadly, some of the behaviors I have personally experienced; some of the behaviors mimic what you yourself – and the portion of your supporters constantly spotlighted by the mainstream media – exhibited on the campaign trail.

Name-calling – marginalizing – stereotyping – pitting of one group against another – judging and accusations – assumptions – more accusations – immoral and unprincipled characterizations

The example that you set during the campaign has become an artifact that we, the people, are now forced to grapple with in the aftermath, down in the trenches.pto5kkl7c

We have been made aware of our divisions. Those divisions have been drawn into the light. Spotlighted and amplified. Somehow, over the course of this campaign year, people with lesser moral character or weak emotional constitution have become indoctrinated with a sense that they can bully and attack and accuse anyone else from the other camp. Fundamentally good people have been convinced that they can now make these bad choices, and that they are justified for doing so.

They have gotten the idea that they don’t have to respect each other’s opinion if that opinion resonates from the other side.

Somehow, people are increasingly getting the idea that it is acceptable now to judge someone based on the group they affiliate with instead of the moral fabric of that person’s  own character.

It has become impossible to discuss rationally with someone from “the other camp” unless that person has embraced a level of maturity that allows them to gracefully accept and move on. Notice that I did not pinpoint any “camp”. It is followers of both camps, plus some, who are behaving badly.

And many are not moving on gracefully.images

They are refusing to accept the election results. They are refusing to even give you and your new administration a chance because they are so blinded by the other garbage.

They are finding you guilty before you have even made a move.

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If nothing else at this point, you have shaken up the status quo. Not surprising, a bit scary, and necessary.

I, for one Mr. President-elect, will do my best to represent a positive front in the turmoil that is raging. Many people of my like mind are working hard to do the same thing. Because, despite some of the despicable things you did and said during the election, those things are no more despicable than many of the things that a multitude of career politicians, including your rivals and those you are currently appointing to your staff, have done for decades. Difference is your actions and words were publicized and spotlighted while the others slithered around in the mud and tried to pretend that they were righteous, good, and doing what they did in the best interest of the American public.

But I wonder, what is happening to principles, standards, love, acceptance?

While many of us wish that we were not beginning a new chapter under such social duress, we are hopeful that as you are sworn in that you will show us a different side than what the media decided to entertain and enrage us with during your campaign and that the changes you evoke will make us a better people and a better nation.

Good luck, Mr. President-elect.

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Thoughts For The Days

July 1 ~ “He’s got to make his own mistakes and learn to mend the mess he makes. He’s old enough to know what’s right and young enough not to choose it. He’s noble enough to win the world but weak enough to lose it.” ~ lyrics from New World Man by Rush

July 4 ~ “Home is not a place or a lifestyle, but the state of your heart and all the people who take their place in it.” ~ from Trail of Broken Wings by Sejal Badani

July 7 ~ Friends are great. Great friends are the best!

July 11 ~ We live. And, yes, we learn. But, what compels us to repeat the mistakes and the bad patterns of the past.

July 12 ~ I refuse to be just another option. Someone else can take that dirty job.

July 13 ~ Of course we can’t be friends anymore, silly. You betrayed me. “It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.” ~ William Blake

July 14 ~ Test case halted. 90 shelf life confirmed. Anyone can play a role for 90 days. But, in the end, the true self cannot be suppressed and always rises to break the facade.

July 15 ~ No matter how angry someone makes you, or how badly they hurt you, at some point you owe it to yourself to:

Forgive yourself for bad behavior in the heat of anger
Forgive them for the pain they caused you
Have compassion for the part of their life journey that brought them to that action

And….pray for them

You might not believe that they deserve any compassion. But, turn the tables and know that, if you were on the other side, you would want that from them at some point.

And then….turn your back and walk away, in peace.

July 26 ~ “…all the knowledge in the world is of no use to fools…and it’s a long road out of Eden…” ~ lyrics from Long Road Out of Eden by The Eagles

July 27 ~ It is courageous enough to live by being who you are. The real challenge is identifying who you could be and then striving for that. Success is possible when the support of like-minded friends and family is there to help you.

July 28 ~ “I {knew} the pieces fit ’cause I watched them fall away. Mildewed and smoldering. Fundamental differing….” Yup, yup!! Sad but inevitably true. ~ lyrics from Schism by Tool

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Thoughts For The Days

June 1 ~ “When you try your best, but you don’t succeed
When you get what you want, but not what you need…..when you love someone but it goes to waste.” Sounds familiar. But I do love Coldplay…and I promise I won’t try to fix you!

June 2 ~ I don’t care what Calvin Klein says. Obsession is not a good thing, especially if it keeps you up at night.

June 3 ~ “It’s better to burn out than fade away.” Uh huh…that’s what I’m sayin’

June 4 ~ The words ‘can’t’, ‘won’t’, and ‘don’t’ all mean the same thing: something isn’t getting done. The difference between the words is in the reason it’s not getting done. Know your reason and don’t get them confused.

June 7 ~ Reflecting backwards, you might ask what you did wrong. The answer that probably comes back: nothing. The inevitable question is always: then what happened and why are we here.

June 8 ~ When you give a piece of yourself to someone, you count on them to hold it safe. It is then that you become vulnerable. ~ paraphrased from Trail of Broken Wings by Sejal Badar

June 12 ~ You can’t succeed if you won’t allow yourself to trudge through the mud and get a little dirty.

June 13 ~ “Some instances in life create a bread trail to a moment that alters everything.” ~ Trail of Broken Wings by Sejal Badar

June 14 ~ Sometimes, there are no words…only acronyms. WTAF.

June 15 ~ “…and I’ll take everything as it comes my way.” ~ lyrics from You by Candlebox

June 16 ~ Be flexible (yet firm in your standards) with everything, or be flattened and left in the dust.

June 20 ~ When you hear a song that brings you back to a place you are not sure you want to go…but, you know that you can’t go.

June 23 ~ Strap in and take cover! It could be yet another bumpy ride. Who needs a roller coaster? Not me!!

June 28 ~ “To be a winner, you have to have something you’re fighting for.”

June 29 ~ “Compassion is the awakening of the heart from self-interest to humanity. Compassion condones suffering – recognizes that suffering is [part of] life.” ~ The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell

June 30 ~ Life is full of options, open doors, and other opportunities. In love and other relationships, we all start out as options. The goal is to not remain an option forever and to be the one who stays around.

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