Thoughts for the Days

~ If you can’t own it, don’t do it.

~ Gotta love the strength of a long-awaited and well-earned revelation. It has the power to flush away – in an instant – months of emotional turmoil and to restore stability and self-confidence.

~ “Nothing is unknown. It is only temporarily hidden.” ~ Star Trek Beyond

~ “In the end what you don’t surrender the world just strips away.” ~ Human Touch by Bruce Springsteen

~ “Life, for all its anguish, is ours. It belongs to no other.” ~ quoted from Penny Dreadful, Season 3, Episode 1

~ There is meaning in many of life’s events – tragedies, triumphs, disappointments, successes. All you need is the courage to look into the shadows to see what was hidden before and to be unafraid to connect the pieces.

~ What will you – the biased political pundits of FB (you are part of this group if you have made more than 1 politically tainted post a week during this campaign) do after this election? Who will you roast? What will you have accomplished, really? What has really changed by all of your inflammatory posts but to drive a wedge between every one and every group? Just like the candidates and the media have guided you to do, driven you to express…you are not unifiers. You have become just as devisive as them all. Pity! Can’t wait for the end of the drama…

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Focus and Educate Yourself: Education – Part 1

image-imageformat-lightboxEducation is one of the most virulent, debated, and politically explosive issues in our current society.

No more so than now, as a new embattled and controversial president-elect positions his cabinet to take control of our government.

In order to ground ourselves in reality, here are some facts about education in American history: 

  • The first “free” school  was opened in Virginia in 1635, although most children were home educated.
  • In 1642, the first state statute was passed in Massachusetts requiring parents to ensure their children are educated in religion and laws of the commonwealth.
  • In 1647, the Massachusetts Law of 1647 was passed requiring all towns with a population greater than 50 families to hire a schoolmaster to teach the children. Note: local jurisdiction versus federal jurisdiction
  • John Locke publishes his Essay Concerning Human Understanding in 1690. This becomes a basic tenet of American education going forward.
  • In 1788, the U.S. Constitution is ratified. It does not include any reference to education or school.
  • In 1791, the Bill of Rights is passed. It does not include any requirements for education or schools. In the 10th Amendment, any powers not delegated to the federal government are granted to the states.
  • In 1821, the first public high school is opened in Boston.
  • In 1827, Massachusetts passes a law that requires any towns with more than 100 families to have a public high school available to all students.
  • Horace Mann – the first Secretary of the Massachusetts State Board of Education – becomes the first proponent of public (‘free’) education for all.
  • By 1918, all states have laws requiring compulsory school attendance. They are sporadically enforced.
  • The Department of Education is created in 1867 and funded by the Peabody Education Fund. Main focus of this fund is to support struggling school systems in the south.

As you can see in the history of education in America up until this point, there is nothing that commands that public education become a replacement for other forms of education. The emphasis is in ensuring that everyone is educated.

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Somewhere and somehow, the emphasis changed. The public education system that was originally envisioned by founding thinkers like John Locke and Horace Mann began to mutate; it continues to do so.

Sadly, even as we battle these statistics, no one can come to an agreement. Why?

Mutual agreement is hampered by some of the following issues:

  • public misunderstanding
  • media misrepresentation
  • over-reliance on misdirected studies and so-called ’empirical’ evidence
  • lack of appropriate funding
  • communication breakdowns related to biased thought processes
  • political infighting and finger pointing
  • loss of focus

The longer we take to come to a mutual agreement, the farther our children slip.

Our focus must be and remain on our children – all of them. We are not the future – they are.

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Introducing “Focus and Educate Yourself”

Over the past few months,  I have gotten myself, with the help of my Facebook “friends”, into several heated debates over politically charged issues: education, use of GMOs, President-elect Trump’s political appointments and future policies.

I have been labeled ignorant and close-minded. Me? Wow!!

My goal was never to inflame nor to judge, but only to show a different side to very narrow and politically biased arguments. Unfortunately, I did not have research and facts to back me up. And I was called out for it. This doesn’t mean that the other side had a handle on those facts either; only that they were able to throw around some weighty catch phrases.

During this all, I have learned that:

  • Everyone has a political bias
  • Political bias is a blinder and it has the power to debilitate most healthy debates
  • The use of rhetoric and conjecture is rampant when political bias is present
  • Rhetoric and conjecture have become mainstay replacements for actual research and educated thought processes
  • Everyone is subject to the use of rhetoric and conjecture because it is the easy way out
  • The ability to remain objective in a politically biased world is virtually impossible

I’m tired of being cornered by people who think they have all the answers and are arrogant enough to voice it that way.

I’m sick of people who label and stereotype others a certain way just because of different viewpoints.

I hate the hypocrisy that is occurring.

I’m done with feeling like I am clawing my way through a maze of biased or under-informed opinion, just because it was the most recent post that came over someone’s Facebook and inflamed an emotional response couched in purported “facts”.

I want to be in a position where I can share something during one of these debates that makes another person say, “Wow, I didn’t know that”. Yep, I know that not everyone is like me and may not likely actually say that out loud, no more than they would apologize when they know they are wrong. I also know that when an issue is ensconced in emotion, mutual understanding and agreement can never be reached.

I am introducing a series of posts entitled “Focus and Educate Yourself”. The purpose of these posts will be to share what I learned through my own research on different topics that are prominent in today’s world and significant in our current political environment. The goal is to hopefully get people thinking on their own, instead of spewing the most recent babble.

I am welcome to suggestions on topics.

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Dear Mr. President

Preamble:

Let’s get some facts established first:

  • I did not vote for Trump, nor for Clinton.
  • I am not a millenial.
  • I am gainfully employed but have seen troubles over my life that have placed me, at times, in less than desirable circumstances from which I had to crawl my way out, dragging a family behind me.
  • I am a conservative, not a Fascist.
  • As a conservative, yes, I do believe in basic human rights and justices.
  • I believe in hard work ~ for everyone.
  • I do not believe in the political machine, including the main and mid stream media that snivels around it and has all of us by the balls and is slowly squeezing.
  • I believe in peaceful demonstration, as one of our Constitutional rights, but I do not by any means advocate violence of any kind.
  • I know that many of you will read this and be insulted, even now, over a week after the election.
  • I do not apologize for my opinion, nor my position.

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With that aside, let me continue.

After many days of contemplation, peppered with vicious exchanges with people whom I have called friends for several years, I have decided to express a few thoughts and feelings that I have been harboring.

As much as many of us have tried to keep things civilized in the wake of your election victory last week, it has proven almost impossible.download

Actually, if I had to classify it, I would say it is social warfare out there. No longer warfare between the proverbial haves and have nots. Nor between the sexes. And it really is not even a war between the races.

It is a war of principles. It is a war of perceived standards. It is a war between intangible thought processes and subjective belief systems; belief systems that have been grown, pruned, and stunted by untold years of personal experience and the molding of each individual. It has resulted in histrionics of epic proportions, across multiple societal lines.

The war zone is real out here, President-elect Trump, and it is slowly gathering momentum – taking prisoners and accumulating casualties.

It is a war steeped in fear, resentment, spite.

It has made some good people make bad behavior choices. good_versus_bad

Here are some of the behaviors I have personally experienced. Sadly, some of the behaviors I have personally experienced; some of the behaviors mimic what you yourself – and the portion of your supporters constantly spotlighted by the mainstream media – exhibited on the campaign trail.

Name-calling – marginalizing – stereotyping – pitting of one group against another – judging and accusations – assumptions – more accusations – immoral and unprincipled characterizations

The example that you set during the campaign has become an artifact that we, the people, are now forced to grapple with in the aftermath, down in the trenches.pto5kkl7c

We have been made aware of our divisions. Those divisions have been drawn into the light. Spotlighted and amplified. Somehow, over the course of this campaign year, people with lesser moral character or weak emotional constitution have become indoctrinated with a sense that they can bully and attack and accuse anyone else from the other camp. Fundamentally good people have been convinced that they can now make these bad choices, and that they are justified for doing so.

They have gotten the idea that they don’t have to respect each other’s opinion if that opinion resonates from the other side.

Somehow, people are increasingly getting the idea that it is acceptable now to judge someone based on the group they affiliate with instead of the moral fabric of that person’s  own character.

It has become impossible to discuss rationally with someone from “the other camp” unless that person has embraced a level of maturity that allows them to gracefully accept and move on. Notice that I did not pinpoint any “camp”. It is followers of both camps, plus some, who are behaving badly.

And many are not moving on gracefully.images

They are refusing to accept the election results. They are refusing to even give you and your new administration a chance because they are so blinded by the other garbage.

They are finding you guilty before you have even made a move.

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If nothing else at this point, you have shaken up the status quo. Not surprising, a bit scary, and necessary.

I, for one Mr. President-elect, will do my best to represent a positive front in the turmoil that is raging. Many people of my like mind are working hard to do the same thing. Because, despite some of the despicable things you did and said during the election, those things are no more despicable than many of the things that a multitude of career politicians, including your rivals and those you are currently appointing to your staff, have done for decades. Difference is your actions and words were publicized and spotlighted while the others slithered around in the mud and tried to pretend that they were righteous, good, and doing what they did in the best interest of the American public.

But I wonder, what is happening to principles, standards, love, acceptance?

While many of us wish that we were not beginning a new chapter under such social duress, we are hopeful that as you are sworn in that you will show us a different side than what the media decided to entertain and enrage us with during your campaign and that the changes you evoke will make us a better people and a better nation.

Good luck, Mr. President-elect.

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Thoughts For The Days

July 1 ~ “He’s got to make his own mistakes and learn to mend the mess he makes. He’s old enough to know what’s right and young enough not to choose it. He’s noble enough to win the world but weak enough to lose it.” ~ lyrics from New World Man by Rush

July 4 ~ “Home is not a place or a lifestyle, but the state of your heart and all the people who take their place in it.” ~ from Trail of Broken Wings by Sejal Badani

July 7 ~ Friends are great. Great friends are the best!

July 11 ~ We live. And, yes, we learn. But, what compels us to repeat the mistakes and the bad patterns of the past.

July 12 ~ I refuse to be just another option. Someone else can take that dirty job.

July 13 ~ Of course we can’t be friends anymore, silly. You betrayed me. “It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.” ~ William Blake

July 14 ~ Test case halted. 90 shelf life confirmed. Anyone can play a role for 90 days. But, in the end, the true self cannot be suppressed and always rises to break the facade.

July 15 ~ No matter how angry someone makes you, or how badly they hurt you, at some point you owe it to yourself to:

Forgive yourself for bad behavior in the heat of anger
Forgive them for the pain they caused you
Have compassion for the part of their life journey that brought them to that action

And….pray for them

You might not believe that they deserve any compassion. But, turn the tables and know that, if you were on the other side, you would want that from them at some point.

And then….turn your back and walk away, in peace.

July 26 ~ “…all the knowledge in the world is of no use to fools…and it’s a long road out of Eden…” ~ lyrics from Long Road Out of Eden by The Eagles

July 27 ~ It is courageous enough to live by being who you are. The real challenge is identifying who you could be and then striving for that. Success is possible when the support of like-minded friends and family is there to help you.

July 28 ~ “I {knew} the pieces fit ’cause I watched them fall away. Mildewed and smoldering. Fundamental differing….” Yup, yup!! Sad but inevitably true. ~ lyrics from Schism by Tool

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No Perfect Candidate

I admit that, once upon a time not so long ago, I was one of those who liked Donald Trump when he first came onto the political stage. I liked the way his unabashed way of setting off public debate – on many issues that had for many years been taboo, or worse, circumvented by the popular media outlets because they were not politically correct to discuss – allowed even the talking heads on the Sunday morning news programs to openly discuss previously taboo issues.

I felt like he got people talking and debating, with less fear about repercussions of opinion or the violation of political correctness expectations.

But now, I fear that he has become maligned by his own stunted followers and the creeping shadow of his own poor business and political choices.

That said, I am not one of those who has gone skulking into the Clinton camp.  I think, in many ways, H. Clinton is as bad, if not worse, than Trump. She represents more of the same government ineptitude. She does not represent change. I would rather engage in civic disobedience, and vote my conscience (e.g. no vote at all), than to vote for the lesser of two evils.

In any case, neither one of the candidates is a viable choice.

Neither one of them has the moral conviction nor the insight to take this country to where it needs, and wants to go. Where it deserves to go.

Here is why:

  • Both candidates will have to battle a dilapidated and corrupt political system. It is the system that is so corrupt. Until the system is changed, the candidate who is slotted in will be mostly irrelevant.
  • Both candidates will continue to contend with their own shady personal and professional backgrounds.
  • Neither of the candidates has the best interest of the public in their sights, unless that public interest is juxtaposed to their own personal gain.
  • Both candidates are part of the corporate and political bastions of American society; basically, the “pillars” that have amassed money and power and use both to battle on their own fronts under the disguise of “fighting for the common man”.
  • It is the Electoral College results that matter, not the popular vote. The decision will be made outside of the public arena.

How many times in history have we seen that happen? Rarely do the masses win anything that they are due by the privileges granted by the Constitution because of the power struggle that goes on in places that none of us are privy to.

So…now…the masses battle among themselves. They claw at each other in order to prove the credentials of their favorite candidate. They scramble to have the last word, to prove that the candidate they favor is the best one. They search tainted media data to present as proof that somehow they are right and the words and actions of the other candidate are maligned.

When they can’t achieve the desired result by doing those things, they disparage the other candidate’s character. They resort to low and filthy tactics; anything to win the argument. They operate from a basis of emotion and hasty analysis. They react to propaganda, data which has already been run through the spin machine at least several times, worth no more than the kitty litter in the litter box, and the stuff that kitty drops in there.

They let go of their common sense in order to hop on the bandwagon of the candidate that the media machine has been geared to lead them to follow.

What they fail to understand is that for them, this fight must not be about candidates. We are way past that.

This fight must be focused on issues, and our pock-marked and crumbling political and social system.

This fight is about clear-minded people butting up against the beliefs of people as sheep, who either can’t be bothered with thinking through the issues with their own brain power or truly believe that our society has an element of truthfulness and purity left to it. They are led along by a shepherd into a pasture where they smell the poppies and eat the spiked grass. That spiked grass is the media propaganda that permeates our reality.

They are led to this place with wool over their eyes, obscuring the reality of the current situation.

As I wrap this up, I am thinking about how we fix this.

What does a clear-thinking non-sheeple American citizen do to make a difference?

Here are my meager attempts to enlighten us all:

  • Do your research using unbiased data from unbiased sources. It is very difficult to come by these days.
  • Take some time to get the pulse on what you believe is the most important issue.
  • Find and join an unbiased organization that supports and propels the solution of that issue to new heights.
  • Stick to the issues; avoid the propaganda.
  • Stick to the issues; don’t malign character, no matter how quickly it would help you win the argument.
  • Stick to facts; don’t use emotion to debate.
  • Remember that everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion, no matter how wrong you think it is. Move on; don’t dwell on it.
  • Don’t allow disagreements over these topics to divide you from your friends and family. Divided – we are all weaker.
  • Remove the rose-colored glasses that you wear and work to remove the tint of those others that you encounter.

Objectivity works best in order to ensure securing a win in the struggles of real life.

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Thoughts For The Days

June 1 ~ “When you try your best, but you don’t succeed
When you get what you want, but not what you need…..when you love someone but it goes to waste.” Sounds familiar. But I do love Coldplay…and I promise I won’t try to fix you!

June 2 ~ I don’t care what Calvin Klein says. Obsession is not a good thing, especially if it keeps you up at night.

June 3 ~ “It’s better to burn out than fade away.” Uh huh…that’s what I’m sayin’

June 4 ~ The words ‘can’t’, ‘won’t’, and ‘don’t’ all mean the same thing: something isn’t getting done. The difference between the words is in the reason it’s not getting done. Know your reason and don’t get them confused.

June 7 ~ Reflecting backwards, you might ask what you did wrong. The answer that probably comes back: nothing. The inevitable question is always: then what happened and why are we here.

June 8 ~ When you give a piece of yourself to someone, you count on them to hold it safe. It is then that you become vulnerable. ~ paraphrased from Trail of Broken Wings by Sejal Badar

June 12 ~ You can’t succeed if you won’t allow yourself to trudge through the mud and get a little dirty.

June 13 ~ “Some instances in life create a bread trail to a moment that alters everything.” ~ Trail of Broken Wings by Sejal Badar

June 14 ~ Sometimes, there are no words…only acronyms. WTAF.

June 15 ~ “…and I’ll take everything as it comes my way.” ~ lyrics from You by Candlebox

June 16 ~ Be flexible (yet firm in your standards) with everything, or be flattened and left in the dust.

June 20 ~ When you hear a song that brings you back to a place you are not sure you want to go…but, you know that you can’t go.

June 23 ~ Strap in and take cover! It could be yet another bumpy ride. Who needs a roller coaster? Not me!!

June 28 ~ “To be a winner, you have to have something you’re fighting for.”

June 29 ~ “Compassion is the awakening of the heart from self-interest to humanity. Compassion condones suffering – recognizes that suffering is [part of] life.” ~ The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell

June 30 ~ Life is full of options, open doors, and other opportunities. In love and other relationships, we all start out as options. The goal is to not remain an option forever and to be the one who stays around.

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